#TransformationTuesday ~ Play it SMART to Reach the GOAL

goalsThere’s no doubt about it – powerful people set goals.  They identify what they want and create a plan to acquire it.  Let’s face it – when you don’t know what you want, you won’t know when you’ve got or how to get it.

In the same way that you can’t get somewhere without knowing where you are going, you cannot achieve your dreams without charting a course to get there. 

Many people are goal-averse, afraid to commit for various reasons (fear of failure is the most common).  And, it’s easy to convince yourself that you don’t have to set goals to achieve your desires.  However, the studies overwhelmingly support the fact that people who set goals are far more likely to achieve what they desire than those who don’t.  There are several reasons for this.  One is that the act of setting a goal creates spiritual and emotional energy that acts as a magnet, which actually pulls your goal closer to you.  The other reason is that a real goal not only includes an outcome, but also includes measurement criteria and timelines for completion, which help you maintain focus and direction.

One of my coaches was known to say “What gets measured gets managed”, and he’s right.  If you don’t know where you are going, you will have no way of charting a course, nor will you know when you have arrived.  It’s important, therefore, that the goals you set fall into the category of S.M.A.R.T. goals.

S – SPECIFIC – The most effective goals are conceived and recorded in very specific terms.  It’s not enough to say “I want to get more clients, or I want to make more money”.  To get the true power of setting a goal, you must be more specific.  How many new clients do you want?  How much money do you want to make? You must dare to be specific about what you want to create.  It takes courage, but you can do it.

M – MEASURABLE – Measurability and specificity go hand in hand.  Again, what gets measured gets managed.  You are much more likely (and able) to track your trajectory and your results if you have a means by which they can be measured.  Being specific about how much money you want to earn not only gives you a clear goal, but also gives you an idea of how you can track your goal.  An example of a measuring your progress would be checking your bank balance each month.

A – ACTION-BASED – To be effective, goals must always be based in taking action.  Thinking about taking action isn’t going to bring your goals to fruition.  You have to take some action if you want to produce a result.  Even if you don’t meet the mark, the shift in your energy will have lasting consequences.  You’ll have more power, more clarity, and more determination than you had previously.

R – REALISTIC – Because of the personal nature of goals, in order to be effective they must be realistic.  It’s not unusual for people to set goals that are inappropriate because they are comparing themselves to others or tuning into societal norms that aren’t specific to where they may be in their process.  For a goal to be effective it must resonate with you in a way that motivates you to do what is necessary to achieve it. Any goal you set will be useless if it isn’t achievable.

T – TIME-BASED – Any good goal will have a timeline attached to it. If the goal is large enough it will be broken into steps, each of which will have its own deadline. The failure to create a deadline for each goal and action step is almost a guarantee that you will not achieve your goal, because you will not have been in action to do so.  You MUST set deadlines!  If you miss it, you can always set a new one.  But, do your best to give yourself a date that will make you take action NOW!

Need help setting goals and sticking to them?  CONTACT ME for a complimentary 20 minute consultation.  Learn what stops you from reaching you highest potential!

Lane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential. Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life! Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

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#TransformationTuesdays ~ Are your young conversations ruining your business?

innerchild_moniquetI don’t want to!  I’m not good enough!  I can’t do that!  I need your approval!

Have you ever experienced those conversations – perhaps even more than once and at the most inopportune times – like when you’re going to a networking meeting, or talking to a potential client, perhaps?

Yes, those young conversations can absolutely kill your business!  I recently had a conversation with a client – a most powerful, focused, and dynamic woman who is committed to changing the face of her industry.  In our conversation she revealed that she had been feeling uneasy and that she had lost her sense of direction.  She noticed that she didn’t feel as confident as she normally did, but couldn’t identify a reason why.  In her efforts to communicate her innovative ideas to people who might champion her cause, she found herself being less than effective and frustratingly so.

As our conversation progressed this client was able to see that she was giving away her power.  Believing that she needed to win these people over, she allowed her message to become diminished.  If you spend time promoting your business, but aren’t getting the results you desire, take heed.  It never serves us to make ourselves small, even if we’re not sure that what we are saying has value to the people we are talking to.

Ultimately, this client was able to see that the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors she was experiencing were those of a little girl, unsure of herself, craving approval, and feeling small.  Once we discovered that her inner child was running the show, my client was able to take her power back in a very big way.  Here are some of the tools I shared with her to keep her powerful, focused, and on track to promote her game-changing ideas and position herself as a thought-leader in her industry.

#1 – Stay Focused on your message and on your purpose for sharing your ideas with others.  Think about what you want the outcome of your conversation to be before you get there.  Creating an intention for the meeting will ensure that your conversation is on target and will go a long way toward creating enthusiastic support for your ideas.

#2 – Be Aware of when your inner child is attempting to sideline your message.  Each of us has an inner child with their own individual agendas, and mostly those agendas are not those of an adult, mature, business-minded person.  Addressing your inner child with compassion and acknowledging her (or his) presence even as you take charge of your life is key to transforming your relationship to your past and creating a powerful space for success in the present and into the future.

#3 – Affirm Your Purpose on a daily basis – maybe even more than once.  Your ideas are an invitation from the universe for you to step up and step into your greatness.  If you an idea for transforming the your industry or the lives of others, don’t let your young conversations keep you from being your most powerful self.  Your inner child will always be with you, but you certainly don’t want to let her run the show.

#4 – Acknowledge your young conversations.  Conversations with your inner child can be valuable and insightful.  If you try to shut her up, she will only scream louder.  Mostly, our inner child is craving love and once you give her that love, she’ll happily move aside and let you take the lead.  Not only that, you’ll find that you can love yourself more, be more compassionate with yourself and others, and open your heart to receive the abundance that you crave and deserve.

Lane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential. Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life! Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

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#TransformationTuesday ~ Giving is Living

Giving back is an essentialgiving back 5 component of success.

A couple of weeks ago someone called asking me to donate some of my books.  Her mother had purchased my book for teen girls at an event and had given it to her for the granddaughter to read.  It turns out that she was with the Girls Scouts of America and wanted to use my book for their annual event.  The theme for the event was I Know Who I Am!  Of course, I was honored to have received the request, and then she told me that she wanted me to donate 50 books!

For some authors, 50 books is a drop in the bucket.  At this time in my business, not so much. I told her that I would consider her request, but that I would also like to offer my services as the keynote speaker.  Interestingly enough, they had not booked one and she thought I would be perfect for the job!  After some back and forth, I agreed to give them a  discount on the books and donate my speaking fee.

And, that’s when I heard the voice.  You know the one.  The voice that wants you to know you’ve made a terrible mistake.  “How could you have been so stupid”, it said.  “Why are you so generous”, it wanted to know.  “What the heck were you thinking”, it asked.

Well, the day came for me to drive to the engagement.   “You could have at least asked them to pay for the gas”, said the voice.  How dare they have this event in such an inconvenient location!  What the heck were you thinking, the voice asked again.  Several days prior I got a call, reminding me that I had agreed to donate 20 books, in addition to the ones they had purchased.  Really? Oy!

Strange as it seems, I know that this is the experience that many entrepreneurs have.  Giving back is an honor, but can also be a burden when you’re just starting out or when customers haven’t exactly been plentiful. And yet, we know, that whatever the circumstances, we are born to give back.  So, we pull up our boot straps and resolve to make something happen.  Even when we’re volunteering, the opportunity for new business is all around us.  We just need to be open to receiving it, and then when it comes, have the presence to take advantage of it.

Now, I also agree with those who would say that you should never give away your services.  You have to put a value on yourself, because if you don’t neither will anyone else.  Everyone’s out to get a discount on something, and you can’t let those people take advantage of your good nature.  I absolutely agree, and it’s your job to make sure that you don’t sell yourself short just because you want to make a difference!  Stay conscious!  Don’t give away the store!

Long story short, I got to the event.  The girls were awesome!  They were totally excited to have the books and the program administrator  has asked to purchase 30 more books.  I returned home tired, but happy that I had obviously made a difference for this organization.  As an entrepreneur, I know that this is what gets you out of bed everyday, as well, and I look forward to hearing your stories of giving back.  Giving back makes a difference and so do you.

Want to learn more about how to build a heart centered business?  Contact Me for an Coaching Consultation!  Lane@LaneCobb.com / 443-756-8391

Be_Your_Biggest_Champion_Cover_Image_3DLane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential. Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life! Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

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“You an have courage or you can have comfort, but you can’t have both! – Brene Brown

vulnerabiity brene brownWhat’s eating you?  Is a question we may ask someone who appears to be suffering.  In fact, it’s a question we should be asking ourselves, because though we don’t know it, we are quite literally being eaten from the inside out when we don’t allow ourselves to fully experience our emotions.  In metaphysical terms, fear, anger, guilt, and resentment are the key causes of both physical and emotional illness.

It’s simple, really.  Emotions are simply a form of energy that, if left unacknowledged or unexpressed, become stuck in the body and wreak havoc on our immune system, causing conditions such depression, chronic pain, or even cancer.  In short, the brain may tell us that if we forget the traumas, grief and disappointments of our lives, we’ll somehow grow beyond them.  But, the body always remembers.

The truth is that our feelings are the gateway to our transformation.  Yes, it takes courage to go within – to bypass the logic of the head, and tap into the wisdom of the heart.  But it takes a lot more energy to store pain that it does to confront it.  And, when we do, we are able to access our innate ability to heal ourselves, and in the process, open the door to joy, freedom, self-expression, purpose, peace of mind, and a zest for life you may have forgotten even existed.

So what’s the answer?   Any of these practices can help you on your way to spontaneous healing and living an authentic and fulfilling life!  Remember, the body always knows!  If you stay in your comfort zone, you may never know what would be possible.  So be brave, and go within.

  1. Allow yourself to fully experience your feelings.  Don’t be afraid of hurting someone else. Unless you purposefully try to hurt someone, saying how you feel can actually improve your relationships.
  2. Ask your body what it needs. The technological world we live in promotes living “from the neck up”. When you are tired, testy, or feeling blue get out of your head and into your body.  That’s where the wisdom is!
  3. Love and accept yourself exactly as you are and exactly as you aren’t.  There is nothing about you that needs “fixing”.  Trying to “fix” yourself is a losing proposition and creates negative energy.
  4. Forgive Yourself!  Holding onto guilt will keep you stuck in a cycle of self-abuse and general dis-satisfaction. Most of the things that happen to us aren’t our fault anyway, so just let go!

Want to learn more about how to release stuck energy? Contact Me for an Intuitive Body Coaching Consultation!  Lane@LaneCobb.com / 443-756-8391

Lane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential. Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life! Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

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#TransformationTuesdays ~ Dealing with Change

secret to changeEver notice how we human beings don’t like change? Some of us are threatened by it. Some of us are fatalistic. Either way, most human beings don’t react to well when faced with change. This is where we differ with the rest of nature. Like trees in a storm, we would do well to exercise our flexibility and bend when the winds of change start to blow. Instead, many of us dig in our heels, holding onto the illusion that we can actually control the change, and refusing to face the inevitable fact that some aspect of our lives has come to an end.

If you’re up to big things these days, it’s a sure thing that your life is changing – maybe faster than  you’d like.  My life is going through lots of big changes these days. As a coach, an author, and a public speaker, I am aware that many of the opportunities that I am creating scare the heck out of me. Not only am I developing new relationships, I am growing out of old ones. Every day, I wake up asking myself, “What if it doesn’t work out, after all? What if this new person I am turning into isn’t who I think she is? How will I manage? What if I end up looking foolish, and come back with my tail between my legs?

For anyone who has ever embarked on a journey of the spirit, started a new business, reinvented themselves after a loss, or in any way found themselves lost in unfamiliar territory, these questions are not uncommon. But, neither is change. Jobs end, circumstances change, people move on, and we must adapt. And herein lies the miracle. It is not how well we resist change, but how well we adapt to change that not only ensures our survival, but allows us to be joyful in the process.

What if, instead of resisting change, we embraced it? What if we were able to view each change as an opportunity for growth, rather than an opportunity for suffering? Competitive athletes actually introduce change on purpose in order to maximize their performance. Businesses do it to create a bigger market, and to increase performance in the work place. This isn’t to say that change will ever come easily for people. Seeing the opportunity that change provides is hardly our first reaction when we experience the rug being pulled out from under us.

But, there is beauty here, if we allow ourselves to see it. And the first step towards that is acceptance. Accepting that change is occurring, and accepting ourselves in the process is the first step to grace-full and joy-full adaptation. Rarely are we more challenged emotionally, than when we are facing the unknown.

Progress is as scary as it is exciting, because it is often difficult to recognize it as such. No one knows what the future will bring, and the unknown is a scary place to hang out in, but it is possible. The next time you are faced with an unexpected change (or even a self-induced one), notice the fear, embrace the possibilities, and step into the opportunities. Change might not feel good, but since it’s going to happen anyway, we might as well enjoy it. Don’t let the fear of change hold you back.  Remember, if there was no change, there would be no butterflies!

If you find yourself bracing for a change or struggling through the process of change, and you would like to break free of that struggle Contact Me for a Complimentary 30 minute coaching strategy session. I promise, you will leave with a new vision for what is possible, and the formula for creating freedom, self-expression, and fulfillment.
ReclaimYourPower-3d-300Lane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential. Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life! Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

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#TransformationTuesday ~ Reclaim Your Power and Speak Your Truth

speak-your-truth-1Are you living a powerful life – a life of purpose, passion, and enthusiasm?  Are you using your power to make a difference or using it to make other people happy?

Not too long ago, I took what I call a “spiritual inventory” and I noticed all the places in my life where I had given away my power.   It wasn’t a happy moment when I realized how complacent and accepting of the status quo I had become.  Deep down I knew my own power, but mostly I used it to make good things happen for other people. In fact, I was a master at it, and built my career around being a powerhouse for others. As a coach and a healer, I have supported hundreds of people on their journey to health, counseled them through bad relationships, and supported them when it seemed that others had abandoned them. But along the way, I lost my passion, my direction, and my joy for living.  And, I know I’m not the only entrepreneur who goes through this (especially female entrepreneurs).

I know that when women stand fully in their power, the world transforms around them. I’ve built my business helping women stand up for what they believe in so they can be, do, and have everything they want in life.  If you’re a business owner (or even if you’re not) I know you’re committed to making an impact, and having a powerful relationship with yourself is an essential component in that process.  How do you do that?  You’ve got to speak your truth.  

Part of reclaiming your power is being willing to say what is true for you. Rather than letting others speak for you or silently going along with the crowd, you need to find your authentic voice. For me, “speaking my truth” became an important part of my mission. As I set out be an example to other women, I grew bolder in my self-expression, my passion grew stronger, and my path became clearer. And this is what will happen for you, as well. When you align with your truth, the universe aligns with you and sends you exactly what you need to make your dreams come alive!

Not only that, your self-expression is a gift to those around you! When you speak your truth into the world, you inspire others to do the same. You don’t have to be an entrepreneur to experience the value of full self-expression. Spiritual alignment is what solid relationships are built on. Being yourself is the key to self-fulfillment. And, authentic self-expression opens the door to living a life of passion, purpose and prosperity. And, that’s what reclaiming your power is all about!

So, if you’re ready to reclaim your power and live your life on purpose start saying what is true for you. Declare what does and does not work for you in your life.  Identify what is happening in your life that you will no longer tolerate.  Speak out.  Speak often.  And always speak your truth!

Don’t know what your truth is? These questions might help:

  •  What do I really want?
  • What do I value? (What is important to me?)
  • What do I want others to know about me?
  • What difference do I want to make in the world?

 Are you ready to Reclaim Your Power? Contact me to receive a complimentary 20 minute consultation and 20% off a 90-day coaching package.  Act NOW! Spaces Limited!

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Lane Cobb is an author, speaker, and spiritual empowerment coach, committed to helping women and teen girls discover their worth, embrace their gifts, live their divine purpose, and achieve their full potential.  Her books, programs, and services can help you obliterate your blocks and build a better life!  Are you ready to reclaim your power? www.LaneCobb.com

 

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